THE MOST EMBARRASSING MOMENT EVER!

Hello people!

I have been missing for a week, I know!

I've been too caught up with school stuff and other events in Montreal

but I have a few blogpost drafts ready heheh

One of the things I did last two Fridays 

was watching theater. 

So McGill Drama Club had a theatre festival every year

and this year I had the time to attend it.

I watched three plays in one night and

overall, I was impressed with the students' performance!

They really could act and

oh wow they had time to do all of these...

So the next Monday after the event,

a classmate talked to me,

cause he saw me at the event.

So he's asking me about the plays..

You know normal stuff, which one did you enjoy the most etc.

Okay, so the second play was funny as hell!

I couldn't stop laughing! It's pretty classic,

about detective story, who killed the husband,

the suspect was the wife because he was asking for a divorce a few days before

and turned out, it's the crazy ex-girlfriend who poisoned him.

And he asked for a divorce because he apparently found

his true love and he just realized after 20 years of marriage,

that he's actually not straight -.-

The third play, thank God that it came last

because I cried like crazy!

It's so sad, no words can explain it!

It's about a girl who blamed herself for her boyfriend's death

and she couldn't move on,

so she started to write to everyone who received organs from the dead boyfriend.

It's not the storyline,

it's the actress!

She's so good at portraying her emotion in the play!

So my classmate asked me,

how about the first one?

I told him, the first one was my least favorite.

Because I didn't quite get the storyline.

It's about a group of astronauts who were stranded

in the space for 10 years,

and they're playing aliens etc in the spaceship

and for a sec, I thought it's the real alien hahaha!

So yeah.

Then, the class started.

On Thursday, 

on my way to class,

I passed by McGill Drama Club poster,

promoting all the plays.

Guess what?

MY LEAST FAVORITE PLAY

THAT I CRITICIZED THE STORYLINE

WAS WRITTEN BY THAT CLASSMATE WHO 

WAS TALKING TO ME ON MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have no words to say.

Good bye.

[Rules of Life Series] : Part 4

Have no regrets

We surely have regrets in our life, 

but as regrets happen, 

they can be very useful;

if you choose to use them to make a difference

and going forward.

There're 3 types of 

"I wish I'd done that" scenarios.

1. When you genuinely feel you didn't capitalize on an opportunity or

that you missed out on something.

2. When you see somebody who's done something great

and you wish it had been you.

3. When you just sit there, waiting for you to be lucky.

Lol, anyone in the 3rd situation will surely miss any chance 

even if Lady Luck is standing behind them.

When it comes to looking at what others have achieved, 

this world is divided into those who look at others enviously and

those who look at others as a motivational tool. 

If you find yourself saying, 

“I wish I had done that/

thought that/

been there/

seen that/

experienced that/

met them/

understood that,” 

then you need to learn to follow it up 

with a

 “And now, I will....”

It's OK to give up!!

Sometimes we head off down the wrong path in life, 

often with the best motives. 

Maybe there’s no knowing it’s the wrong path until we try it. 

There’s no shame in admitting it once we realize

 it’s not getting us where we want to be.

In my case,

I tried going for singing audition,

and I clearly failed haha!

My voice is just for my ears to listen to haha

so I quit that dream to perform singing in public,

and I dance instead.

I don't really dance for competition,

but I dance for student clubs

if they invited me for gala or any event.

I guess I'm better at dancing,

and not singing.

Am I a quitter?

Don't think so, cause I gave singing a try.

It's just that singing is not my niche haha!

If the world is telling you that you took a wrong turn, 

you can admit it honestly and put

yourself on a different track. 

No one can be brilliant at everything, 

and sometimes you have to try things to find out 

whether you can do them. 

And maybe you can’t.

Change what you can change,

let go of the rest!

Time is short. 

This is another of those facts you can’t escape; it’s a given. 

If time is short, then it makes sense not to go wasting any of it, 

not a single lovely drop of it. 

It's my observation that the successful people pay attention to what, 

in their life, 

they have some control over and they simply, economically (time-wise), 

and let go of the rest.

Beating yourself up over,

it is counterproductive and such a waste of time.

If you waste time struggling to change stuff that is obviously never going to be changed, 

then life will whiz past and you’ll miss it. 

If, on the other hand, you dedicate yourself personally to things you can change, 

areas where you can make a difference, 

then life becomes richer and more fulfilled. 

And the richer it is, curiously, the more time you seem to have.

The only definite influence we have is over ourselves. 

The only thing we can really, really change is exactly that—ourselves. 

What an opportunity to do some good. 

What a chance to make a real contribution. 

Begin with ourselves and let it spread outward. 

This way we don’t have to waste time preaching to those who won’t listen. 

We don’t have to waste effort or energy or resources

 on things over which we have no control and no certainty of any success. 

By changing ourselves, though, we can be assured of a result.

[Rules of Life Series] : Part 3

Keep Calm and Keep Calm

Sometimes, we shout to justify ourselves and

shouting is usually a weapon we use when we know we're losing.

Shouting means losing your temper,

and it doesn't necessarily mean you're

being convincing because most of the time

shouting just shows your argument is weak.

So, don't shout. Even if you're angry.

Remain silent and calm,

because calm people are always the bigger person/

Calm people are trusted. are relied on,

 are looked up to 

and are given responsibility.

Most importantly, calm people last longer.

Listen to your gut, listen to your intuition.

Deep down, within all of us is a fount of wisdom.

This is called intuition.

Listening to your intuition is a slow learning process.

It starts by recognizing the tiny inner voice and feeling,

that will tell you when you've done something you shouldn't have.

You might call it conscience if you like,

but deep down, you know when you've done something bad.

You know when you've got to apologize,

make amends, put things right.

You know.

I know you know.

I know because all of us know.

Once you start listening to that inner voice,

you will find that it can help you in life.

Listen to your intuition.

No fear

There should be nothing in life that you should be afraid of, except for God.

If there is, you might need to do something to overcome that fear.

Whatever you fear,

face it head on and defeat it!

No surprise

Life seems to be full of surprise, doesn't it?

But if you look carefully, 

there're clues all along the way

that it's gonna happen.

No surprise there.

So why does life seem to surprise us?

Because we're asleep half of the time.

Wake up, and nothing can sneak up on you.

No hesitation

Weigh the odds and then just get on with it.

If you hang back, the opportunity will have passed.

If you spend too long thinking, you'll never make a move.

Once we have looked at the options, we make a choice and go for it.

That's the secret.

No hesitation means not waiting around for others to make up our minds for us.

No hesitation means if there's a certain inevitability about a situation,

then just throw ourselves in head first and enjoy the ride.

If there's nothing to be done, then waiting doesn't help.

No doubt

Once you've made your mind up about something, 

don't go over it again and again.

Stop thinking and stop worrying.

Enjoy, relax and let go.

Tomorrow will come along as certainly as it can.

There's no doubt about life.

Be confident, 

be committed 

and be sure of yourself.

[Rules of Life Series] : Part 2

Dedicate your life to something

To know what counts and what doesn't, 

you have to know what you're dedicating your life to.

In general, we always do something for reasons.

Maybe we're doing it to satisfy ourselves,

or to make others happy,

or because we simply have to do it for our financial assurance

(ie study to get a degree haha)

Point is, we should have a yardstick to measure things we're doing.

How you're doing?

What you're doing?

Where you're going?

Be flexible in your thinking 

You have to be ready to roll as the storm  breaks;

and, by golly, it always breaks when you least expect it.

To get the most out of your life is to keep all your options open.

Keep your thinking and life flexible.

Flexible thinking is a bit like mental martial arts;

being ready to duck, and weave and dodge and flow.

Try to see life as a friendly sparring partner,

and not as an enemy.

See life as a series of adventures

and each adventure is a chance to have fun, 

to learn something 

and to explore the world.

Expand your experience 

and circle of friends

and broaden your horizons.

Shutting down to adventures means you're shut down.

Because once you shut down to all the options and possibilities,

and once you think you have all the answers, you might as well hang up your boots.

Once you get set in your ways, you're already part of history.

Take an interest in the outside world.

The happiest, 

most well-balanced, 

most successful people in life

are those who are part of something.

Part of the world and not cut from it.

And the most interesting, stimulating people to be around

are those who take great interest in what's happening around them.

Taking an interest in the outside world is about developing you,

rather than for the world's benefit.

Be on the side of angels, and not beasts!

We always get torn between what we want and what's good for others,

between personal satisfaction and magnanimity.

So, you have to set your own parameters.

Does it hurt or hinder?

Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?

Will things get better or worse if you do certain things?

Make good choices in life.

Just keep swimming!

Life is meant to be a series of struggles.

There'll be times when 

it's an uphill, upstream struggle.

We have to 

battle waterfalls, 

dams 

and raging torrents,

but we have no choice.

We have to keep swimming, 

or we will get swept away.

While struggles don't come to an end,

there'll surely be lulls in-between times;

backwaters where we can rest for a while 

and enjoy the moment

before the next obstacle gets thrown our way.

[Rules of Life Series] : Part 1

Keep it under your hat

Don't preach, propagate or even mention this.

Pan is the least expressive guy I've ever known,

he's very mysterious that people sometimes forget his existence.

In some cases, this is a good thing.

While others busy telling their world about their dreams,

he lets his success make the noise.

I kinda like this side of him,

and I'm trying my best to adopt this attitude.

But I will still blog about stuff, because only 15 readers, so it's fine haha!

You'll get older but not necessarily wiser

Sad fact, but it's the truth.  Not all old people are smart and wise.

This surely makes me realize that we can learn something from everyone.

While wisdom is not about not making mistakes, 

but it's about learning to escape afterward, with our dignity and sanity intact.

I'm a 23-year-old woman and I'm still making mistakes.

Accept what is done is done

What is done, is done. You need to get on with your life.

Embrace all the bad things as being an important part of you and move on.

The change occurred when you realized that even if you could confront the people

who had "done you wrong", there'll be nothing they could do about it.

You could shout at them, rant at them, but there'd be nothing that could do

to make amends and put things right.

Accept yourself

Accept it. You don't have to improve or change or strive for perfection, just accept.

Accept who you are, the result of everything that has happened.

You come fully loaded with 

desires, 

anguish, 

sins, 

pettiness at times, 

mistakes, 

ill temper,

rudeness,

deviation,

hesitation,

and repetition.

That what makes a human being so wonderful; the complexity.

None of us can even be perfect.

We have to be awake and aware,

be ready to do the right thing.

And accept that some days, you're not going to make it,

Some days, you will fall, far short, That's OK!

Don't beat yourself up.

Pick yourself up and start again.

Know what counts and what doesn't

Being here counts. 

Being kind and considerate counts.

Criticizing everyone on social media doesn't.

Think about what you do that counts and do more of it.

There're things in life that are important

and a whole lot of things that are not.