It's less than 7 months till my big day but the wajib stuff needs to be done earlier.
Kursus Kahwin!
So, if you guys don't know, without going to Kursus Kahwin, you can't get married,
because by attending Kursus Kahwin, you will be granted a certificate
and that cert is needed for marriage approval from the Jabatan Agama Islam Negeri.
Panicking because most kursus kahwin in Melaka
are not as frequent, they will just have it on certain weekends.
Idk which kursus kahwin is the best one,
I do not have twitter so basically I know nothing about any kursus kahwin that has gone viral lol.
One day, I talked to my colleague,
asking her about Kursus Kahwin in general and she recommended me to go to
Kak Ana Kursus Kahwin
at Masjid Taqwa TTDI,
because she found the session knowledgeable, not stressful and full of jokes!
I didn't do any research after, just asked Pan to register for that session.
It's RM120/pax for a two-day workshop, which is RM40 more expensive than other places.
I just didn't think of the price, because this place they have Kursus Kahwin almost every weekend.
No trouble on our side.
It's not as strict as other kursus kahwin as well,
you just need to wear modest attire
and to girls, it's not compulsory to wear baju kurung,
but I did it anyway.
They separated ladies and men into two sections,
in the same classroom and all the speakers were so funny!
And I met Jannah, a long lost friend that I haven't met for a long time!
It felt good to see familiar faces :)
The messages were delivered and ofc being Aliah,
I took notes on things that could be important or beneficial to me only :P
For example, there's a slot talking about husband and wife's responsibilities -
a husband needs to provide two meals per day for the family,
instead of two, I chose to write 5 meals per day in my notebook.
The husband needs to provide two new attire (head to toe) for the wife per year,
specifically for the two eids we're celebrating.
So, I wrote 12 attires - one for every month.
You got the message, right :P
There's a health talk, telling about pregnancy and stuff,
that talk scares me because I want to be a mother,
but I'm scared of what's coming.
Can I just remind myself about all the good things?
Like oh, motherhood is a beautiful journey
and beauty lies on the eyes of the beholder lol.
During stress and conflict slot, the speaker explained
about how stress could lead to conflicts in marriages and
its effects to our mental, emotional and physical health.
He also asked an important question,
why do you wanna get married?
That question hit me hard, because as someone who has answers/excuses for everything,
I cannot answer that question and that worries me.
I think I didn't have the answer,
because to me everything need to have just one specific answer.
In my head, "I have no answer to this. I think I just wanna be happy with Pan and have a family."
The speaker later quoted this ayat from the Quran,
"And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that
you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.
Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."
Al-Quran (30:21)
In other words,
it's for us to find peace and happiness.
Despite all the responsibilities,
the main aim is for the humans to be happy.
If a marriage doesn't give you happiness,
then you fail to achieve your marriage goal.
So, technically,
I wasn't wrong, right?
I just wanna be happy!
Growing up, when I was super single,
I thought, I could be happy living alone forever.
But when I met Pan,
I realized, I am happier with him.
I am lucky to have a happy family, growing up,
but having Pan around makes me feel more content.
Ofc, there are disagreements and small fights along the way,
but the bottom line is, I'm happy.
After the stress and conflict talk,
there's a talk about divorce.
It's an eye-opening session,
because as women,
we need to know our rights in marriage.
When things go wrong, not the way we want it,
we have to know our right
and only with knowledge and education,
our right will be protected.
I realized that Islam protects women
and even though the authority to announce talaq
(one way
and even though the authority to announce talaq
(one way
to end a marriage) is given to men,
women are still protected above all that.
Not many people will notice that, because even I did the same mistakes,
of not knowing my right as a Muslim woman.
The news, the media, the society, our culture,
do not promote women's right as much.
I aim to learn more about this,
hopefully my marriage will be a happy one,
but the knowledge can be passed down/shared with others.
Now, I understand why people promote
Kak Ana Kursus Kahwin because of its fruitful talks
and yet it's stress-free, not a typical ceramah, I would say.
The food prepared was great too.
Kak Ana, herself, is a friendly and helpful lady.
She's willing to help us throughout the documentation process -
oh forgot to mention, the marriage documents are damn complicated,
but they'll guide you along the way!
After the first day of Kursus Kahwin,
we made our way to Jalan TAR
to find clothes for our reception.
I found that there are a lot of places that sell
way cheaper stuff than buying online
but you gotta go through the parking hustle and all.
But one thing settled for the wedding, yeay!
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| Sorry Pan, this was the only shot I had |
we made our way to 1Utama for rock climbing.
It's been a long time since Megat and I planned for this trip,
at last we made it happen.
Pan couldn't climb because of his knee injury,
so it was just Megat, Trisyia and I.
It's so much fun! I love climbing, only topknot climbing though, not bouldering.
After climbing, Pan told me that we needed to head back to PD
because his family had a family dinner
and he asked his family and my parents the permission to take me with him.
I had zero time to freak out,
rushed back to my place, showered, took all my stuff for the night and the day after,
and drove to PD. Pan drove my car lol, not me.
It's fun to gather with Pan's family,
they're all so chatty and full of interesting stories,
we ate Kari Tulang that his dad cooked, met Dinah after she turned 2 months.
We played UNO after.
Ofc I didn't win, because UNO isn't my niche lol,
and I slept at the guest room with his youngest sister, Iqhlas.
Woke up for breakfast the next morning,
and went to Tanjung Tuan to hike.
But when we reached there,
there were two fire brigades,
apparently some parts of the place were caught on fire.
So, we just walked by the beach, had some photo shoots
and made our way to a few more places around PD.
Btw, 6 of us (Pan's parents, Qib, Kak Iqa, Pan and I) could fit
inside a car!
We had late lunch that day because everyone was just too tired
after the Tanjug Tuan trip and had a two-hour nap.
Made our way to KL after Asar prayer,
thank god the traffic was okay.
I reached my place at 8-ish,
did some grocery shopping,
did my laundry while waiting for Pan to reach PD back,
because he parked his car at my place.
I didn't expect my long weekend to be this packed,
but for the first time in my history of working life,
I felt like my weekend was super productive!
Till then.
xo
